You have discovered that words are both absolutely powerful and completely inconsequential to an exchange. Something is always going on beyond the words. The ordinary is ultimately the extraordinary by not in any way trying to be anything other than the ordinary. You can have the greatest impact on others by just being you and recognizing that the intellect is never going to figure it out. You will never know who wants what or who wants to hear this or that, and the editor inside of you that might try to determine what is acceptable and not acceptable is always going to fall short of the deeper understanding.

This deeper understanding is that if you are you, nothing else matters. It doesn't matter what you say or even how you say it. All that matters is that you are you.

Become Comfortable with Yourself

Everyone ultimately knows everyone inside out. It's pretty clear that people see you. They see who you are underneath anything that you do or say. They see your knowledge, your wisdom, and your heart and experience you in all of the delight of being human. All of that is who you are in action, who you are in the world, and who you are as a being of profound light, who also has a body sensing and experiencing everything.